Forth Entry~

For many years Singapore government has came up with 'latest behavior modification campaign' - a wedding "punctuality drive" - to encourage guests to turn up on time for couples' big day. But till now, I still have not seen much effect yet. People still stroll in VERY LATE like nobodies business. These polychronic people have no sense of time at all. They feel that its ok to be late... no harm... but what about those being on time? Is it fair to them? Letting them sit there for hours when they made an effort to reach on time.

Is it because of the collectivist culture we are in? We learn from elder that 'the more important you are, the later u can arrive'? Have we actually picked up this bad beliefs our ingroup have portray?

Chinese being brought up in a collectivist culture, we tend to favour 'face-saving' , duty to parents, modesty and thrisft. Normally this culture is being think as one with interpersonal sensitivty and mutual sympathy, why are we still late for wedding? Isn't being late unfair to others? How can we have 'interpersonal sensitivty' and be late on the same time?

If one can be on time for work, schools and even a date, why can't they be on time f0r a couple's wedding? This is definatly not taught by the teachers and peers in school? Its the parents and relative being a bad influence to the youngster. They will always say 'don't need to hurry, never mind... they will not start before us... etc' what are these old hag trying to prove? Do they think that having so many people to wait for they give them the 'face' they want? Have they lost their mind some where? Do they even have any shame in them or they are just too thick skin for their own good?

How can one be so monochronic and yet so polychronic in time orientation at the same time? Culture of being late in a wedding is already being programed into the minds of people. Is it time for them to re-tuned their brain back into the correct path track? I believe that all people should un-learn what our elders have taught on time orientation and embrace a new one.

What are your views on this? Do you agree with what i have said? Or do you still think its perfectly fine to be late? Please leave a comment....

我在夢裡徘徊找不到出口，
找不到可以逃脫的路口；
那是抹痛徹心扉的傷口，
卻無法解脫、更無法灑脫。

Third Entry

SINGAPORE : The Singapore Department of Statistics said while incidents of divorce have increased over the last year, the rates of marriages and remarriages have also increased.

23,966 marriages were registered last year, up by 1.1 per cent or 260 from 2006. However, this was still lower than the annual average of 24,800 registered in the 1990s.

7,226 marriages were dissolved last year, up by 165 from 2006, and the largest divorce rate came from couples aged between 20 and 24.

Remarriage has become increasingly common, with 18 per cent of grooms and 15 per cent of brides remarrying in 2007. Those remarrying were an average of 7 to 13 years older than those contracting first marriages. - CNA /ls

This is a quote taken reported by Channel News Asia on 9 july 2008. Sometime i tend to wonder why go through all the trouble from coming together if it result in a divorce... Is the couple moving from the state of experimenting into intensifying too fast? Or id it bonding comes to early into the picture? As years go by, marriage is no longer a life long thing many people perception have change over the years. Even in the stage of integrating and bonding, people no longer think and say 'we'. Instead of 'we feel that this is not a good solution' it became 'i don't think this is a good solution'. Is this why people drift apart after the marriage?

As Singapore open herself up more, man is no longer the bread winner of the family. Women study like men does and they got themselves a paid job compare to what they used to be. In some families its the woman that call the shots and they earn more then the husband. Is this one of the other unseen reason behind? Men feel belittled by their wives which its just the problem of their ego. Or is it they no longer have much time to communicate and bond with their family due to work and stress?

Have not gone through marriage, but i can try feeling the awkwardness between 2 people when they no longer have any topic to chat about. Its uncomfortable silence. Is circumscribing the start of outside marriage affairs? Is this the another way of feeling love. People may think 'its ok i am just fooling around. What can go wrong?' Slowly this became stagnation. Big fuss about small stuff, couple having cold wars, giving each other disgust glares. It is not very healthy if there is a small kid involved.

Avoiding each other becomes very often. Going out early and coming home late, sleeping in different bedrooms, not communicating with each other normally ends up in terminating the relationship.

The largest divorce rate came from couples aged between 20-24 and people getting remarried around 7-13 years later. If it is the same group of people, they will be in their 30s. Is this showing that as years goes by, they have learn to compromise more or they just want to settle down for the sake of settling down? Is there really love? Or its just a mutual comfort of two broken soul?

What really went wrong in the relationship? Is it lack of communication in their relationship or its actually reciprocity and counterfeit liking in the first place?

上帝看得见。
谁和谁的纠缠不清,谁和谁的爱恨情仇。
这不是一幕肥皂剧。
是你,在用生命上演,悲伤的绝唱。

Second Entry

This movie is one of my favorite in the whole final fantasy series. Final Fantasy began in 1987 as an RPG video game. Currently having 13 different series, i can say that FF VII ran the longest and being the most successful of all. FF VII first started out in 1997 as a sony playstation game have now being turn into a must play video game for all gamers.

Japaneses are really talented in arts. The character the created look so 3d so alive. Each character have their own personal soul and the communication habit. Reno(red head) and Rude(bald guy)they serve more of a comical relief in Final Fantasy VII : Advent Children

Love the part when Reno step on Rude's sun glasses which cause rude to give a freak out and shock face trying to tell us that he is surprised that Reno did not see is glasses as a form of non-verbal communication. The big guy Barret(with a machine guy arm) looked so shock when his guy/arm is clot at 4.06. The widening of their eyes is a form of non-verbal communication known as Oculesics.

In 4.36mins the girl, Tifa is displaying a form of Kinesics non-verbal communication as she use her body as a shield to protect the little boy. At 6.32mis, the big monster is shown clinging on to the metal piller look alike. It gives off a slightly high pitch roar which tell us that he is in pain and angry. This is known as Paralinguistics.



This is another part of the video. After Sephiroth is defected, at 4.57mins Cloud was shown catching onto the fallen Kadaj. In this study of touch also known as Haptics and the study of Proxemics for space, we can tell that Cloud have forgiven Kadaj. One will not let their enemy or someone he dislike to come to close to their body as personal space is invaded.

Over all I cannot help but praise Nobuo Uematsu the composer for the sound and music effects. His most recognizable contribution in the whole Final Fantasy series is '片翼の天使' or 'One-Wing Angel'. This latin choral track is the main theme character song for the infamous Sephiroth in FF VII. This music will be played in battles when sephiroth is involved praising and singing his name as he fought. This is also heard as the background music of the second video.

片翼の天使
Estuans interius
ira vehementi
Estuans interius
ira vehementi
Sephiroth
Sephiroth

Estuans interius
ira vehementi
Estuans interius
ira vehementi
Sephiroth
Sephiroth

Sors immanis
Et inanis
Sors immanis
Et inanis

Estuans interius
ira vehementi
Estuans interius
ira vehementi
Sephiroth
Sephiroth

Veni, veni, venias,
Ne me mori facias
Veni, veni, venias,
Ne me mori facias

Veni, veni, venias,
Ne me mori facias
Veni, veni, venias,
Ne me mori facias

Veni, veni, venias, (Gloriosa)
Ne me mori facias (Generosa)
Veni, veni, venias, (Gloriosa)
Ne me mori facias (Generosa)

Veni, veni, venias,
Ne me mori facias
Veni, veni, venias,
Ne me mori facias
Sephiroth
Sephiroth

Sephiroth